Had she been a different kid, this could have been much much worse.
My first thought was to head for the hills immediately. But the fact of the matter is, this is the world we live in.
We have to be all in: frequent checks of all devices in the home, an extra app to see deleted texts, and closing all games that are social.
Safety apps can’t do it all, I frequently check the device as well.
Toddlers have no sense of privacy and may masturbate quite openly.
“My 18-month-old used to rub herself ferociously during nap time at daycare,” says Toronto mom Carol Armadale.* “Finally, her daycare provider said we had to speak to her about it—apparently, all the other children were watching!
We set all restrictions to PG or better, eliminating obvious dangers.
You Tube offers restriction settings, and we use those.Kids are also more likely to show you on the spot if something questionable pops up. This has led to me deleting some things I thought “looked safe” and ended my freak-out about apps that I thought no child should have. There’s no reason for anyone to be online in the dead of night. I’ve learned that it’s clearly not enough to limit screen time and say, “I’ve done my job.” We must do a deep dive into what our kids are doing, what different apps allow, what it looks like to hang out on You Tube, or Minecraft, or in any online community.I ask them about what they’re playing, and with whom. Our newest (and not super popular) rule is that all i Pads and technology get handed in at 9 p.m. We need to check new apps on a review site like I’m now a digital explorer. I spend time figuring it out, and friending or following them. I delete things that I don’t believe are good or safe, and I don’t care if they hate me.Where they’re at Many parents are surprised to find that their children are sexual beings from birth, says Tara Johnson, a sexuality education specialist with the Region of Peel Public Health in Brampton, Ont.Even infants are curious about their own bodies and will often touch their genitals in the bathtub or during diaper changes, and baby boys have regular erections.If you find out or suspect that your child has been sexually abused by a family member, it can take a toll on you as a parent.