If so, you are likely making at least one of the mistakes commonly made by women over 40 who are using online dating as their new discos. ) Unfortunately, all it takes is one major profile mistake to potentially sabotage any chance of finding love — or even a few good dates.
Whereas before a man just needed to be the best looking guy at work to get a date with a colleague, now he needed to be in the top 10% of all men to get a date with one of the women in his city.” This is the double-edged sword of online dating.
You have far more access to singles than ever before. Which means that there’s also far more COMPETITION.
Online dating may be a jungle, but it’s a jungle with a LOT of single people, so it’s best to learn how to master the process.
As a woman, your takeaway is that while you may get frustrated at the lack of quality responses, put yourself in a man’s shoes.
Especially when it comes to men trying to write to women.
For all the talk about “The End of Men” and how gender roles have been obliterated and women can write to men first, blahblahblah, here’s what ACTUALLY happened after four months: • The women as a group received over 20 times more messages than the men.
The good news is that unlike a lot of things in life, your profile is easy to change and update.
And once you know how it is inadvertently turning off the men who are looking for a positive, fun connection, it’s really not that difficult.
“The expanded horizons offered by online dating don’t equal unrestricted access to a ready and waiting list of beautiful people.
Every man and woman online still has criteria that must be met by people who want to date him or her, and every guy and girl is still in direct competition with every other person of their gender…
In case it’s not obvious: Demonstrate creativity, intelligence and a great sense of humour • Be totally different to anything she may have received before • Be obviously unique and not a cut-and-paste job • Show that I’ve read her profile and absorbed facts about her • Not be needy!