As the patriarchal social system took place of the matriarchal social system, the private ownership of property came into being, on which the ancient monogamous marriage was based.
Dictates of Parents and Advice of Matchmakers Free love was absolutely banned in ancient China and was widely condemned as an offence to public decency according to the traditional Confucian ethic codes, so it was the task of parents to arrange marriage for their children in order to maintain order of the traditional patriarchal society.
Not only was the arranged marriage formally favored by society, but it was also politically supported and enhanced by law in ancient China.
The law interdicted the intermarriage between people of the same clan in the Ming (1368-1644) and the Qing (1644-1911) dynasties; however, it allowed people of the same surname but of different clans to get married.
Tolerance toward Polygamy Generally speaking, it was a traditional national policy to carry out feudalistic monogamy in ancient China, however, the traditional Chinese culture didn't prohibit or explicitly encourage polygamy (a man and multi women).
Presenting Wedding Gifts: If the betrothal gifts were accepted, the boy's parents would present wedding gifts to the girl's family, which was the grandest one of the six etiquettes.
The wedding gifts usually included cash (silver), jewelry, cakes and sacrificial articles.Matching Birthdates: if the proposal went well, the matchmaker would inquire about the four pillars of birth time (referring to the year, month, day and hour of birth respectively, known as Bazi in Chinese astrology) of the couple-to-be and submitted it to a fortune-teller to predict their future.If the fortune-teller said it was ok, the marriage ritual would continue.In the primitive society, the ancestors of the Chinese people lived in groups and had no fixed spouses, and they had sexual relationships indiscriminately with one another.Owing to their weak gender awareness, they didn't felt ashamed and weren't bound by customs and etiquettes.Submitting Betrothal Gifts: after the matchmaker informed the girl's parents that the birthdates of the couple-to-be matched, the boy's parents would arrange and submit betrothal gifts to the girl's family with the betrothal letter.