It’s almost like once you’ve been living with it all your life, like sunshine and warm oceans, it’s not that special — The Caribbean Man — and certainly not warranting all that list attention. I like hearing my own accent and dialect tumbling in my ear.Plus, we like to try to not feed the machine (cough, egos). According to a Trini sistren I know, “Trini man is de ! I like the worn familiar feeling of an old and obscure-to-nearly-everyone-but-Trinbagonians Machel song. I like how they freely wine or stoically rather not. How I challenge their worldview as a queer black feminist.Murray decided to show up and mostly to our awesome couple.
(more…) complicate the areas of gender and sexuality in the West Indies.
And possibilities for complexities count for a whole damn lot where I am coming from (I’ll take it where I can get it at this point). Worse yet a hot song at the cusp of an artiste finally blowing way, way up.
Too many men are overly consumed with notions of how much man a woman might have had before they came along. It’s not so much that the video lead can’t wine in Olatunji’s recent “Wining Good” video, but when her wining then gets filtered through the peculiar lens of race and culture, some interesting things start revealing themselves.
Get over it, you’re probably not the only person she’s fucked. I hate to be juggling with a dancing partner over leading a wine. Judging by youtubers, there is plenty of that occurring with recurring echoes of this Indian girl can’t wine good forming a significant portion of the criticisms of the video.
(more…) The truth is good wining is really subjective. We fit like puzzle pieces riding a soca rhythm that we both know intimately. There are good wines and bad wines and across cultures, we can find different wining styles. Inside of Trinidad and Tobago, cultural anxieties about race and nationality get well wrung out and tellingly signified inside of soca and calypso.
One person’s perceived expert daggering is another person’s “leave me alone nah.” I always like to think that I can tell where people are from — by their wining. Vincentians don’t wine like Trinbagonians or exactly like Bajans. Olatunji himself, is part of a rich lineage of black and Afro-descendant Trinbagonian men singing about wooing, seducing, loving, and or paying homage to a certain East Indian woman. The same movement can also be incredibly sensual when both parties want to take it there.
Every now and then, an article or two makes the rounds touting the pros of dating “a Caribbean man”, primarily for the elucidation of women outside of the region and our cultures.
Sometimes, a few women and men friends of mine post these on Facebook with either an eye-roll, a pointed ‘no comment’ or as comment bait, but more often than not, they often go ignored by most of the folks I know personally. Living abroad, dating West Indian men can be like comfort food.
Nothing else exists or has ever existed in the history of their fucking.
Obviously, if you’re in a presumably committed relationship, probably your sexual history is in fact, not relevant to the current boo and no one expects it to be brought up regularly, but the fact is it’s all part of who we are.
It shouldn’t undermine your current sexual relationship/s at all.