Next up, "I need someone who won't waver in the face of temptation..to death of the bullshit women have tried to pull on me." And then there were the profile headlines that read, “I’M NOT HERE FOR GAMES" or, "Looking for love in all the wrong places…Why is it so hard to find someone? I’m all for disclaimers and being upfront with people, but beginning your About Me section with your do’s and don’ts and why you and your ex didn’t work out isn’t a good look. When it doesn't happen, we're transformed into sour “bitter bitches.” We refuse to move on past the hurt we’ve experienced from our old lovers.
As I stared at my computer screen, all I could muster up was, “Bless his heart! We only make ourselves feel better by vowing to make men’s lives hell on Earth or by complaining about the lack of good men (that’s not limited to weekly men-bashing soirees, posting crappy Tweetgrams on Instagram, leaving embarrassing and profane voicemails for exes, etc.) or even by paying thousands of dollars for billboards to publicly expose them for their infidelities (I thought that was pretty clever myself). Meanwhile, men are easy breezy -- created to taunt us and tell us to buck up when it comes to our heartbreak.
According to some newly published research out of Taiwan, it may be.
Download it and chat (or as I call it, “fake text”) with guys. I went outside of my area, looking at guys in Texas, even as far as California just to see what’s out there.
With every profile I scanned, one thing became abundantly clear: Men are bitter. These weren't your unattractive or average "nice guys" who are down to their last options for date-hunting either.
How have men managed to shift the shame of mismanagement of emotions to women for so long? They don’t usually scream at the world, “Hey, I’m still hurting!!
”Some sleep with as many women as possible as a distraction from the pain, instead of engaging in another relationship that could actually work.
The more our brains have to search through, the more difficult it also becomes to ignore irrelevant information.
A person is also more likely to be distracted (or attracted to) attributes that were not initially relevant or pertinent to their original search.
Perhaps they disregard romantic relationships altogether and focus solely on other life areas.
You didn’t really think “Bros Before Hoes” and “Fuck Bitches, Get Money” were just pop culture catch phrases, did you? And then some of them, unfortunately, take to their online dating profiles. When someone hurts you, you should you feel empowered to voice that.
They were pretty hot guys (to me, at least) who seemed to have personalities, be gainfully employed and know where commas and periods should go (some of them).