Step into a crowded bar and you'll feel it; a wary tension, jungle-coiled, eyes flashing. One friend just wants an erudite, nice, successful guy and all she gets is gropes and looks. My female friends say, 'Well, you don't know what we put up with'.In recent years, Kiwis often met a partner at a party or through friends and then spend time hanging out before they "tripped and fell into a relationship'', said Sasha Madarasz, owner of Two's Company that offers one-to-one introductions to singles. Women want to be wooed and treated as ladies, and men want the challenge of winning a woman's heart through effort. The trend puts us in line with several other countries such as the US, Japan and Spain, where dating is the usual path to a relationship.
"It's like emotional Russian roulette," says Wills, a 35-year-old artist and conservator.
She's unusual in her circle for not jumping into bed at the drop of a wine glass.
An Auckland woman was in for a romantic surprise from her New York-based partner today when a coffee and single red rose were delivered to her at work.
An inner-city coffee shop owner, who did not wish to be named, said he received a call from the man asking him to deliver the surprise to his lady on Valentine's Day morning and to say "from guess who''.
Activity on the site was 10-20 per cent above the same time last year and messages sent between members 22 per cent higher - "so Kiwis are flocking to our site at record levels that's for sure'', he said.
"There's something quite rewarding and enjoyable about the formal and quality time spent on dates." Auckland woman Kathy, aged in her 40s, said there had been a change in attitudes and people were making more of an effort when it came to dating and showing their romantic side.There's light on the horizon - or rather, glowing from computer screens across the land.Internet dating is a known stalking patch for casual sex.Kiwis are showing their romantic side in a return to old-fashioned methods of getting know that special someone, say dating experts.And they believe rise of online dating could be behind the change.With the old, pre-1970s rules around dating and mating happily dismantled, Western women have more financial, social and sexual wherewithal than ever before and the ground is supposedly set for an equal, mutually-negotiated meeting of bodies and minds.