We grew up together, had children together, built a life together — until we finally realized that we would never be happy together.It wasn’t that we had grown apart so much as it was that we had grown into the people we really are.
“Once you find true love, it doesn’t matter how long it took to get there because it’s happening right now,” she said. When you fall in love in your 50s, you feel 19 and 28 and 32 and 45 and you feel so lucky to be the smartest, sanest self you’ve ever been.” I’m the one who feels so lucky.
Here’s what’s happened in the past year — two girlfriends have gotten engaged, and one has her condo on the market and is looking with her boyfriend to buy a new place and move in together. So, because of that and the fact that we live longer, she says, it’s worth putting the time and energy into looking for love regardless of your age.
The best way I can describe it is that it feels at once effortless and rock solid, unbearably light with unfathomable depth, surprising yet richly deserved, like we first met and have known each other forever, which again is the circuitous way of saying that it rocks to be this old.
I told the woman I love that I was going to be writing this essay and asked her for a quote.
A few things became clear to the researchers early on — the women treasured their independence and craved companionship. In fact, many said they were not interesting in caretaking ever again — they’d been there and done that.
They desired companionship and a social life — and sex.But what’s different for us, something that I’ve never experienced, is a kind of shorthand we share that cuts to an incredible depth of feeling that can only be achieved by people who have, as they say, been around the block.Which is the circuitous way of saying that it rocks to be this old.I probably would’ve run for the hills.” “Don’t worry,” I said.“A few years ago, I wouldn’t have been able to tell you any of those things.” We agreed that we couldn’t have been in love with each other at any other time in our lives except right now, that we’re lucky to have found each other when we did.The ridiculous checklist, stored in the back of my head forever, filled with all the admirable characteristics I’ve ever wanted in a soul mate, slowly began to evaporate the first time we kissed.