A guy who is nice will just smile at you as you’re walking home from the subway. Nice Guys seethe when they are rejected, telling you that they deserve things because they’ve always been NICE to you. We have all been around the block enough times to see you bending over backwards to be the kind of person you think a woman wants.We are already anticipating the heat that we might catch if the date doesn’t go well, or if we gently decline your texted advance after the night is over.
A guy who is nice will walk you to your door, but will be content with a hug and a friendly wave goodnight.
A guy who is nice will never make you feel obligated to do anything.
In the heat of the moment, it’s often hard to parse out what you want to do and what you feel like you do.
Say you went on a date with someone who seemed perfectly NICE. Say you felt what might have been the brief stirrings of attraction, or maybe it was just the beer, or you’re not really sure, but he’s just so NICE.
Beware the Nice Guy, and the occasional guilt that gnaws when you reject him. Not every person is right for you, and so, if you don’t have chemistry with someone in spite of the fact that they are exceedingly NICE, do yourself a favor and don’t feel bad.
If you feel like someone expects something other than what you’ve already brought to the table in friendship or a relationship, there’s no need to feel pressure to do anything above and beyond what you’re already doing. There’s no rule that says we must sleep with those that show us NICENESS.
A guy who is nice will offer to pay but certainly won’t force the issue if you throw down your debit card and offer to split the check.
A guy who is nice will disagree with you if he disagrees, and argue and talk and have a conversation with peaks and valleys, and intellectual stimulation, but will not make you feel like you’re being pandered to.
The key to overcoming the hurdle of being Mr Too Nice to Date Twice is to be more proactive about your dating success.
Stop relying on what you perceive as your ultra nice personality and realise that when it comes to dating, you need to put yourself across and ‘sell’ your persona because leaving it to chance and hoping that she either drags it out of you or is wise enough to recognise straight off the bat the hidden joys within you is going to keep you away from the second date.
had a drink with a friend the other night who spent the entire time pouting as he regaled me with the latest details of his most recent failure in the dating world. No one ever wants to date me because I’m too nice,” he whined.