I didn't know much about China back then -- a time when I could only communicate in Mandarin with a dictionary and lots of patience, and where my entire cultural knowledge was amassed from the library books on China I borrowed during the summer.
But I figured surely I wasn't alone in my feelings.
He always opened doors for me and wouldn't leave my side until he escorted me all the way to the entrance to my apartment.
Not only has this book confirmed my sexuality, it has boosted my friendship with my fellow white women.
I can't look forward to the next book of How to Date a White Man!
But it was interesting to read and definitely a funny conversation starter to have on hand.
I am now engaged to the same white woman so maybe I should write a book and charge thirty bucks for it. As a gay Asian male, and by gay Asian, I mean Gayasian, this book has transformed my life.
But some of my most fascinating and educative encounters with this idea of "Chinese men as undateable" happened online, when I came face-to-face with these opinions distilled into the cold, black-and-white reality of blog posts and expat forums.
Back in 2010, I discovered a post on a now-defunct blog authored by expats in Shanghai.
The post was written by a white American woman based in Shanghai and titled, "So, how's the dating scene?
" The photo leading off the post was a still from the 1980s American movie featuring Long Duk Dong, considered one of Hollywood's most offensive Asian male stereotypes.
When I came down with the flu, he accompanied me to my therapy at the clinic and read to me from When I thought about my burgeoning crush for Tian, I figured it was no different from that college semester when I studied in Spain.
All the American girls I knew liked flirting with the local Spaniards, and why not?
Not many other sites can offer you a membership database of over 2.5 million members with the promise of introducing you to single men and women across the world.